I just had the weirdest , oddest dream ever… I could say it was a bit scary too, but oddly enough I wasn’t that shaken by it . I went out to look at the stars at one of my friends house, who basically lives in the desert. We were looking up and I kept noticing odd things. First what I thought was a shooting star turned out to be something else. It was moving then stopped then disappeared. I tried to tell one of my friends what I had just seen, but she didn’t believe so I let is pass. Then the night sky became a bright orange and fireballs were raining passed but not on us (weird right?!), everyone began to freak out, but I knew not too. Some how we were at a table outside, with directions to set it up. We had something from what is seemed to be all religions. A tablet for the Bible, Quran, Water for what I think might have been a symbol for Nature and a blank tablet for what I guess would stand for Atheists. It just seemed that we were somehow setting up for all religions. And then just as if things couldn’t get weirder, we were all struck down some how, I’m not quite sure how but we were made to get on our knees. Now I’m not sure how I knew, but I decided to just pray, to get lost in my thoughts and take myself someplace else. Thats when I felt it, people trying to shake me, move me out of my prayer, but I decided not too, and I remember feeling safe and secure in that thought, then I woke up.

So I’m not sure what that dream meant, but woo it was a bit creepy to say the least. 

It’s amazing how opportunities, just present themselves when you least expect it. From my personal life, to professional, it seems like things are finally going in the right direction.

Last night I worked an event at the XO Lounge, as a promotional model for this new athletic clothing line brand called Confidence Matters, basically I was responsible for moving in the crowd, getting people to take pictures, have fun, and learn more about the brand. It was a pretty neat experience, I can’t wait to see the pictures, and the footage shot from that night. I made a few good connections and the promise of more work in the future.

One of the questions we were asked during the night was, “What are you most confident about?” I answered, “my personality and optimistic outlook on things …” I think its so important to have a bright outlook on the future and realize when opportunities present themselves to make sure you take FULL advantage of them.

Last night was a reminder that God is still continuously blessing me and I am eternally grateful. Everything happens for a reason, and I realize that now, that I’m walking more by faith than by sight, my life will only continue to get better. 

ispeakinglish89 asked: to bad theres not more like you where im from... not stoppin the search though

thank you ♥

Just keep a clear mind and open heart and someone will come along, just for you.

Saying you don’t date black women because they are ALL loud, and argumentative, and un-submissive is ignorant as FUCK. Now you guys know that I don’t usually curse, but this shit is out of control! We are in the year 2012, where people are becoming more accepting of all ethnicities, religious preferences, and sexuality, yet this ignorant ass comment is allowed to slide ?  

First of all, you are making a generalized statement, which was probably based on the media’s portrayal of African-American women and/or your few encounters with this ethnicity. 

• Don’t believe everything you see on TV
• If you encounter nothing but loud, obnoxious black women, I think its time for a change of scenery. 

I am all for inter-racial dating I believe the love is blind, but when you make a racist and biased answer like this, well its upsetting to say the least. I consider myself to be a well-spoken, humble, woman of African descant, and do not relate at all to the loud, argumentative, and generally ghetto uneducated black woman stereotype. 

Quick history lesson,  Women in general have been stereotyped in the US since it was founded. Black women specifically have been made into the Mammy, Welfare Mother, Slut, ect. all as a means to oppress and change our perception of ourselves.

• The Mammy was the big, fat, black woman who looked after her ‘Masta’s’ children, she was made to look so undesirable, when in reality most slaves who worked in the house, were actually the object of sexual desires and often raped.
• The Welfare Mother was a woman who was depicted to be sexually promiscuous and unresponsible, having too many children and not being able to provide for them. She was the woman who had more than one baby daddy, and just used the government for free handouts. In actuality now, there are more single white females in North America using the welfare system, then any minority. 
• The Slut is the one who is sexually promiscuous. The woman for whom enough is never enough. This one is a bit tricky, because we have music which promotes promiscuity however if a woman does she is deemed unworthy, however if a man does it he is almost praised. 

Second of all, the same could be said about black men, oh how they all are dead-beat dads, have no education, no ambitions, and all just sit and do nothing all day. Or how about latino men, how all they do is drink and beat their women? Or maybe Asian Men, and their small penis’ and inability to show emotions? . . . It’s not nice to believe stereotypes is it? 

So seeing as how this is now 2012 it makes no sense, that some of these stereotypes still exist today. We should be educated and aware enough to not generalize so much. 

Also just a quick side note, when you say un-submissive, that kind of makes you out to be some sort of misogynist, and in todays society that’s not really a flattering trait to possess . Also women from all ethnic backgrounds have the capability to be loud and obnoxious, so don’t be fooled into thinking its just a black thing! 

Now you know.

Anonymous asked: ok so ms. cougar, i could use a little advice. im in desperate need for a relationship but im quite shy and in a way standoffish at first. any tips for getting a girl?

Okay , first off i know you sent this a few days ago, I was planning on responding then forgot (you know, I get distracted to easily) … but didn’t you ask a similar question to this before ? Hmmm , I believe you did . But any who …

Why are you in desperate need for a relationship ? I mean the purpose of a relationship is to only add to your life. Before you get into a relationship learn to be content and happy with yourself, if you rush into one before that, then it won’t work out. You will be to clingy, probably a bit insecure, and just ultimately a bad boyfriend. 

Now tips for getting a girl ? Usually I would say be yourself, and I still whole heartedly believe that. I’m a romantic optimist, I believe that there is someone for everyone, and that true love will ultimately conquer all.

However I must add a bit more to this advice. Be a bit guarded. You seem like  a sweet person and unfortunately there are women out there who will take advantage of your heart, and might intentionally hurt you, so whoever you choose to fall in love with, make sure they deserve your love. 

eeeek just won $30, off of a $3 bingo scratcher and it was my first time buying one ! woot woot , I’m feeling kinda lucky :)

hopefully something good will come of my sudden luck ! 

i wonder what else will happen …

It seems like people are always so quick to judge, so quick to point fingers. Why is it that people , myself included are always so willing to call someone else out ? I would attribute it to our own self consciences. I mean unless it is in a strictly concerning way , such as “She seems to be depressed lately , maybe I should say something …” and not like “Ew what the hell, does she have on?”

I think that we as a society are super quick to spread negative things around about each other instead of love. We need to learn to be accepting in all aspects of the word.

To many people are so quick to promote love and say stop hating, yet the moment someone does something that you are uncomfortable with, you are quick to say something demeaning and negative about them. 

To many of you are consistently complaining about how others judge you, based on body appearance, sexuality, ect., yet the moment you see a guy you’re attracted to, with someone you find less appealing you are quick to say something, ANYTHING negative about their situation, which in fact has NOTHING to do with you. 

I don’t mean to rant, but seriously this JUDGMENTAL behavior has got to change, if we really do want to be a more loving and accepting society, we must realize that the change starts within us. 

emotionally , physically , financially , I mean just about in every aspect of life . But I know that if I keep striving and keep working towards my goals , it will get better . I received a blessing today that was totally unexpected , but that blessing was all it took to remind me that I have people on my side . That if I stay true to myself and honor everything that is within me , I will be fine . All to often we lose sight of who we truly are , we forget about all the greatness that is within us , and all to often we become drones , beings just moving through life without actually living it . Everyday I will be making the conscious decision to live , to do something , to be grateful for the life I have .   

nothing is better then getting an unexpected blessing, especially one of financial means ! 

this love isn’t like anything i’ve experienced

this love is something new 

you see me as i am, and i can be myself around you 

a geek, to temptress, i share my deepest desires with you 

this love forces me to be one with you 

i share my mental, physical, and spiritual self with you 

this love lets me release all doubts and fears and put my trust in you 

let me explore all the way i can please you 

this love leaves us on the phone having conversations about the past, present, and future

time will never be enough when I’m with you 

a smile that gives me butterflies, I’m a young girl around you 

this love makes me always think about you 

i want to always kiss, hug, and hold on to you 

allow me to explore all the ways I can come with you 

this love doesn’t leave me guessing i know you love this too 

call me just to say baby i was thinking about you 

you don’t play any games you’re always real and love that about you 

lies and deceit reside no where in you 

my mom even loves you

this love has got me going on and on and on 

i just want to be with you

this love is to good to be true